As a woman, have you ever felt uncomfortable walking on to one of your jobsites?

You’ve done a stellar job designing a new kitchen, you’ve had an excellent relationship with your client – yet somehow the whole thing is getting soured when your project is actually being worked on.

The builder thinks you should stay away from the job – he knows how to build things, and you should just leave him alone.

He always talks down to you, and makes you feel, well, just unwelcome.

You’re feeling hurt, demoralized and angry.

The crew isn’t much better; they look at you in a way that is clearly not professional. Or perhaps someone makes an inappropriate comment about you in another language when you’re walking up the stairs to check out the tile job in the master bathroom, not realizing that you actually speak the other language yourself, and understand what was said.

It’s a sad truth that, for the most part, the jobsite is the domain of men: From the foul language to the messy porta-potty, the mud and mess, the dust and noise – it’s where men can be “boys” again.

The guys are building their fort, and when it comes right down to it, most of those “boys” don’t really want “girls” around when they’re at work.

So how do you, as a female design professional, deal with all of this? Can you change the sexist pattern that exists on far too many jobsites?

Yes, you can, and you need to. There are so many more talented women in this industry than in years’ past, both in design and in the building part of things, and it’s time things are done differently!

Before Work Starts

It all starts with your relationship with the people who are actually going to be building the work.

The challenge here, whether you’re a male or female designer, is to create a feeling of teamwork. You need to be on the same side as the builder, and that needs to be made clear at the outset – before any demolition takes place, before any hammer hits a nail.

Perhaps you can get together on the jobsite with your builder a few weeks before construction is due to start. Plan a short meeting for just you and the builder. It’ll be a good time to go over plans and specifications anyway, to review how the contractor or installer sees the work proceeding, the schedule, the costs – and any bumps he may see in the road ahead.

This jobsite meeting is also a great opportunity for you and the builder to set up a few “ground rules” – especially ones that concern you as a woman on the jobsite.